Change is inevitable. There is something unique about every day and life is constantly moving forward. But there is routine – about 75% of our actions, thoughts, habits, schedule is repetitive in nature. When change happens, it can feel seismic, regardless of whether it was expected or unexpected or if it is desired or unwelcome in out lives.
Is it already that time of the year when the New Year’s resolutions and promises are wearing thin or perhaps have disappeared completely? Don’t give up just yet or file them under ‘next year’ because it takes weeks if not months to create a new habit. And even when we do create more lasting and embedded habits, there can still be times when we just hit a slump in our motivation and seem to reverse the progress we have been making.
Momentum only really happens when our ‘why’ becomes greater than our objections.
Dreams keep us looking to the future and stop us from looking at the past which is gone
If you’re not even looking for opportunities, you won’t see them. Don’t make them come smack you in the face.
If you buy into the belief that our true purpose here on earth is to learn to love ourselves, well then how do you know that you’re doing a good job? or even that you DO love yourself?
Love can be hard enough to define when it comes to relationships. It often becomes a question of is it love or just excitement and novelty for new relationships and with longer lasting relationships – is it love or is it just comfortable?
The question for our own self love can be even more difficult to quantify.
Is by no means extensive and our self-love needs to be in many directions. We need to love our physically bodies, our personality and emotional traits and then of course our spiritual self is another aspect that we need to embrace as it truly holds our feelings of connection to the world around us and our sense of purpose. In other words – what the hell are we really here for beyond paying the bills right ?
It’s possible to be really good in one direction and absolutely empty in love for ourselves in another. You will know if this is happening as your life will feel quite lob-sided and unhappy or even frustrating.
In my own experience and working with others, it can be quiet a journey to get to having any lasting sense of self-love.
Here’s how some of us would describe it:
More positive mind chatter and less listening to the nagging inner critic.
Feeling passionate about things we have in our lives.
Wanting and willing to go for ‘more’ in multiple directions in our lives.
Better relationships all round and attracting more positive people into our lives.
Confidence and getting on with things we want to do easier.
Happiness and the feeling of ‘I’m me in the world and loving being me’.
Wishing you love on your journey to loving you xo
